How to live positively after disappointments

Greetings!!! Welcome back to my media space! This is the last article am writing when this blog is celebrating it's second anniversary, I hope you’ve enjoyed the other articles too, click here to read them. This is part of my journaling because I’ve discovered a review of activities you have done makes you stay in touch with what exactly you want, where you are going and sometimes is an important indicator of certain relationships, dreams and things that you have to let go so that you can spend more time and efforts focusing on new possibilities. On your birthdays, anniversary and holidays, having a review is always exceptionally poignant in starting a new chapter because you get more aware of what you missed in the last season and what you need to do in this season to be successful. It helps you live positively after disappointments on your dreams.

Reflections From National Holidays

Kenyans will be celebrating Madaraka Day as a reflection of an independence war that happened long ago. The same has happened to Americans where over the weekend they celebrated the Memorial Day. In both countries patriotic citizens will be reflecting on wars and celebrate the efforts of the earlier generations. The bottom line is that, in both countries, we are setting aside a time to show our gratitude to heroes and heroines who sacrificed their own lives for the sake of liberties that we enjoy. Of course being a Christian and a Patriotic Kenyan especially, am thankful for the heroes who paid the freedom I enjoy today with their own blood.'

I think there hardest part being a Christian, ambitious and patriotic Kenyan is celebrating anything that has been won through a war. There are always some inconsistences that one will always have to be faced with. I mean just think about it, Jesus seems to have settled it on the Sermon on the Mount when he stated, turn the other cheek or love your enemies. In as much as this world wants us to believe that when we get lemons we ought to make some lemonade, it very tricky to remain peaceful when you have been tossed on every side by physical, psychological, and financial violence when we are going through this life. At such times, the simplest option we are all prone to is become angry, resent and of course want to revenge, complain and quit. That’s the easiest route that anyone can taking. You really don’t have to make more efforts to make a decision to return evil for evil that has been done to you, to blame others when things have not worked for you or walk away from your offices when you’ve been unfairly treated by an unjust manager.

Entitled to be Angry and Disappointed

And honestly speaking we are entitled to being angry and responding to our disappointments in a negative way. Think about it, a few months back, my friend and I were building a social web application; the idea seemed so awesome, creative, mature, and innovative and name it. It was just nice to say the least. We roll it out, it gains massive membership but unfortunately we got disappointed when the website come tumbling down due to technical issues that we have not anticipated. It was none of our error in the first place and therefore we had every reason to complain, abandon the idea or rejoice over it because we knew where it had gone wrong. We chose the latter. As I write this we are still finding a way to fix this issue. This is life! We get what we choose to imagine from the circumstances we go through in life.

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Confrontation Leads to Despair

The worse, response that you can embrace when you are in a state of confrontation in this world is being intentionally combative, rude, cruel and bitter. Its true friends that you will be faced with battles that is outside the parameters that any consider as just to fight in, and the world will cheer violence and injustice to your dreams and vision, however just don’t be quick to despair. This is because becoming confrontational exposes you to being defensive and this hurts even the more your feelings than the real harm that the eventuality had caused on you. Take a deep breath, say to your heart, “it is well with my heart” and brace yourself to fight for another day. When you think it’s all over visualize peace, make effort to remain calm and surely even when there are sounds of rattling swords, bombs bursting in the air or firing guns, you will find safety and confidence in your own dreams and vision.

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Live Positively

When you feel defeated in you world and are considering engaging in conflicts to save your image, and dignity always be careful and consider that option as a last resort. Dear friend, refrain and restrain from engaging in activities that will undermine your character and compromise your position. Instead be careful to negotiate your way and surely no one will stand your innovation. Embrace positivity from the disappointment. My own philosophy has always been that whenever that an idea that has come to maturity will always have its way. Sometimes people may be a little bit unfair to it but definitely it’s not long before they agree to it.

Expectations and Realities

This life will always present to us huge Gaps between our expectations and reality. And as human beings, facing reality isn’t so easy; most often wen wish we could avoid cause it may be somehow unbearable. The point is you need to have the courage to affirm you values, attitudes and faith while you acknowledge your vulnerabilities that you are exposed to. You need serenity when you think you are not lucky enough on this occasion or you are disappointed you did not have the capacity, skill and talent to push forward you agenda. The disappointments and frustration in life, ought to open up alternative realities for us so as to view new possibilities to things we have all together ignored and often such realities are for our nourishment.

Outcomes meant for your JOY and NOT MISERY

Disappoints are real in this life, but think of Amrit Desai, an Indian Guru who is said to have had a huge collection of extremely rare crystals which he had accumulated for many years. One day a lady cleaning his house accidently knocked the display case where the crystals had been housed sadly smashing the irreplaceable crystals. The lady was fearful of her error and pointing out her mistake to the guru expecting a violent response, Desai told her, “Those crystals were for my joy not for my misery”. What a turn around? If only you considered and accepted your frustrations and disappointments as reasons for your joy instead of taking them as reasons for your misery. Think about it, if you only hoped that your wildest of dreams will come true and only spent all your efforts discussing, imagining, dreaming and enjoying your best expectation of the outcome. When your desires and promises do not happen, you are certainly permitted to be disappointed but not for long to hinder your ability to see with certainty that there’s a good life after. Martha Beck says that “The fact that you are still alive means there is still too much that have happened to you than has gone wrong so far”. Don’t fear to stand, dust up and move on.

Conclusion

Just think about your greatest triumphs and disappointments over a dinner table with your family and friends, share this conversation with them. Celebrate with them and cheer up. There are better things coming up soon. Let go of those disappointments, begin to create and discover new dreams and exciting ways to start a new life. Have a reflective life. Remember to stay in touch with me at jeremiahwakamu@gmail.com or on Facebook Jeremiaho Wakamu to keep this discussion going. And again referrals though you social media network/connection and word of mouth is the best you can do for this blog.

The Place of Faith in a Vision

Greeting!!! Welcome back to my media space. Its FEEL GOOD MAY when this blog is celebrating the second anniversary. As a way of marking the second birthday, the month of May is set aside for reflection of the two years’ journey. The first of the reflections was on bossing our feelings when pursuing our vision and dreams, click here to read it. The second was how to deal with frustrations in your single-hood. This is awesomely good! For such a fate its FEEL GOOD MAY. Sometimes back, in this blog I’ve discussed the error of Christopher Columbus the man who discovered the route to India click here to read it. He might have missed an actual shorter length but nevertheless his work, heroism, exploits and courage are well-documented and celebrated in all ages. I strongly believe that when a vision or a dream whispers we must seek to train to be effective.  But I ask, was his discovery a true vision or a mare accident whose occurrence had faith as a component? Did faith influence the accomplishment of his life? I tend to believe that faith has influence on the lives of great men who have a vision in life.

Reading the recipe or baking the cake?

What’s the place of faith in a vision, I again ask? To answer this, consider life as being fair enough to everyone and provides them with necessary ingredients and an accompanying recipe that they can translate them into a cake. The point is, the primary responsibility of the baker is to read the recipe, understand and follow the steps for a successful baking process. Doing so will amount to a baked delicious cake when the ingredients are mixed well and otherwise, we’ll end up with a cake no one wants to consume or recipe talk. This is same as receiving a vision in the invisible realm and translating it into practical working reality in the visible realm. A vision needs to produce tangible actions just as a recipe produces a cake. In the midst of the process, where is the place of faith in transforming ingredients into a cake?

Vision and Faith as functions of the heart

Dear readers, sight are a function of the eyes while vision is a function of the heart. This is because sight is just the ability to see things as they are and vision is the ability to view things as they could possibly be. That means that with eyes, people only see what is in the physical world, what their visual ability is limited to see but with faith, people have convictions of things that are not as though they are. They have hope of what possibly is unimaginable idea. The problem with sight is that it has no hope! You are not able to see anything beyond this moment and day and hence sight should never determine what our heart believes in. A vision in itself cannot function without the means of faith. Thoughts and words design a vision but faith creates that vision into a future. Friends, while it’s true that words and thoughts have creative power, its faith that is the ingredient to sees opportunities in problems and finally transforms the thoughts and ideas into great achievement. Faith is the means through which people are empowered to bring to manifestation of what is unseen. This cannot be through visual means but through an inner understanding of the self and so faith qualifies as a function of the heart.

Faith as a motivation of the vision received

Faith brings a new excitement, and understanding that men with a vision are in positions of authority. They gain meaningful insights that they are well supplied with talents and strength to pursue and win in life and therefore do not need to complain and blame others when things are not working for them. When men with a vision spice it up with faith, they genuinely gain the confidence and comfort that they will win and achieve. These people will have their spirits lifted in the midst of temporal failures. With faith a person can pursue their vision in life without fear for they do not limit their power and ability on what they possess but on the supplies of a divine power whose source is beyond them.

Real vision produces a faith that works

Historically, great innovations and discoveries have been made by successful people with great thoughts. These are people whose vision outlived them and continue to make impact even on their graves. It’s argued that ideas control the world. For a vision to outlive a person, they need not confine the idea to themselves but conceive and express it. This is faith in vision, because how you see things determines how you think and act and thus in the end whether your vision will become a reality. You see faith make people effective in their vision because they pursue with their whole hearts, strengths and will only one vision at a go in which they are fully convinced, it’s the right. To receive a vision demands that we respond immediately, and this is the only way to fulfill it. With or without the resource needed, a person must be ready to jump the ship and stir it in the unknown path which can only be possible through faith. How else do you set on journey to unknown land across vast amounts of water in an ocean for Columbus? This is because of faith, cutting off all the fears and admitting that this vision is beyond our 

circumstance and from God whom we have received it from, he can choose to work with anyone.

Conclusion

Have a reflective life. Remember to stay in touch with me at jeremiahwakamu@gmail.com or on Facebook Jeremiaho Wakamu to keep this discussion going. And again referrals though you social media network/connection and word of mouth is the best you can do for this blog