Greetings!!! Welcome back to my media space! This is the last
article am writing when this blog is celebrating it's second anniversary, I hope you’ve
enjoyed the other articles too, click
here to read them. This is part of my journaling because I’ve
discovered a review of activities you have done makes you stay in touch with
what exactly you want, where you are going and sometimes is an important
indicator of certain relationships, dreams and things that you have to let go
so that you can spend more time and efforts focusing on new possibilities.
On your birthdays, anniversary and holidays, having a review is always exceptionally
poignant in starting a new chapter because you get more aware of what you
missed in the last season and what you need to do in this season to be
successful. It helps you live positively after disappointments on your dreams.
Reflections From National Holidays
Kenyans will be
celebrating Madaraka Day as a reflection of an independence war that happened
long ago. The same has happened to Americans where over the weekend they
celebrated the Memorial Day. In both countries patriotic citizens will be
reflecting on wars and celebrate the efforts of the earlier generations. The
bottom line is that, in both countries, we are setting aside a time to show our
gratitude to heroes and heroines who sacrificed their own lives for the sake of
liberties that we enjoy. Of course being a Christian and a Patriotic Kenyan
especially, am thankful for the heroes who paid the freedom I enjoy today with
their own blood.'
I think there hardest part being a Christian,
ambitious and patriotic Kenyan is celebrating anything that has been won through
a war. There are always
some inconsistences that one will always have to be faced with. I mean just
think about it, Jesus
seems to have settled it on the Sermon on the Mount when he stated, turn
the other cheek or love your enemies. In as much as this world wants us to
believe that when we get lemons we ought to make some lemonade, it very tricky
to remain peaceful when you have been tossed on every side by physical,
psychological, and financial violence when we are going through this life. At
such times, the simplest option we are all prone to is become angry, resent and
of course want to revenge, complain and quit. That’s the easiest route that
anyone can taking. You really don’t have to make more efforts to make a
decision to return evil for evil that has been done to you, to blame others
when things have not worked for you or walk away from your offices when you’ve
been unfairly treated by an unjust manager.
Entitled to be Angry and Disappointed
And honestly
speaking we are entitled to being angry and responding to our disappointments
in a negative way. Think about it, a few months back, my friend and I
were building a social web application; the idea seemed so awesome, creative,
mature, and innovative and name it. It was just nice to say the least. We roll
it out, it gains massive membership but unfortunately we got disappointed when
the website come tumbling down due to technical issues that we have not
anticipated. It was none of our error in the first place and therefore we had
every reason to complain, abandon the idea or rejoice over it because we knew
where it had gone wrong. We chose the latter. As I write this we are still finding
a way to fix this issue. This is life! We get what we choose to imagine from
the circumstances we go through in life.
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of Simple Conversations
Confrontation Leads to Despair
The worse,
response that you can embrace when you are in a state of confrontation in this
world is being intentionally combative, rude, cruel and bitter. Its true
friends that you will be faced with battles that is outside the parameters that
any consider as just to fight in, and the world will cheer violence and
injustice to your dreams and vision, however just don’t be quick to despair. This is
because becoming confrontational exposes you to being defensive and this hurts even
the more your feelings than the real harm that the eventuality had caused on
you. Take a deep breath, say to your heart, “it is well with my heart”
and brace yourself to fight for another day. When you think it’s all over visualize
peace, make effort to remain calm and surely even when there are sounds of
rattling swords, bombs bursting in the air or firing guns, you will find safety
and confidence in your own dreams and vision.
Read also: You are
more precious to keep on Worrying
Live Positively
When you feel defeated
in you world and are considering engaging in conflicts to save your image, and
dignity always be careful and consider that option as a last resort. Dear friend,
refrain and restrain from engaging in activities that will undermine your
character and compromise your position. Instead be careful to negotiate your
way and surely no one will stand your innovation. Embrace positivity from the
disappointment. My own philosophy has always been that whenever that an idea
that has come to maturity will always have its way. Sometimes people may be a
little bit unfair to it but definitely it’s not long before they agree to it.
Expectations and Realities
This life will
always present to us huge Gaps between our expectations and reality. And as
human beings, facing reality isn’t so easy; most often wen wish we could avoid
cause it may be somehow unbearable. The point is you need to have the courage
to affirm you values, attitudes and faith while you acknowledge your vulnerabilities
that you are exposed to. You need serenity when you think you are not lucky
enough on this occasion or you are disappointed you did not have the capacity,
skill and talent to push forward you agenda. The disappointments and frustration
in life, ought to open up alternative realities for us so as to view new
possibilities to things we have all together ignored and often such realities
are for our nourishment.
Outcomes meant for your JOY and NOT MISERY
Disappoints are
real in this life, but think of Amrit Desai, an Indian Guru who is said to have
had a huge collection of extremely rare crystals which he had accumulated for
many years. One day a lady cleaning his house accidently knocked the display
case where the crystals had been housed sadly smashing the irreplaceable crystals.
The lady was fearful of her error and pointing out her mistake to the guru
expecting a violent response, Desai told her, “Those crystals were for my joy
not for my misery”. What a turn around? If only you considered and
accepted your frustrations and disappointments as reasons for your joy instead
of taking them as reasons for your misery. Think about it, if you only hoped
that your wildest of dreams will come true and only spent all your efforts
discussing, imagining, dreaming and enjoying your best expectation of the
outcome. When your desires and promises do not happen, you are certainly
permitted to be disappointed but not for long to hinder your ability to see
with certainty that there’s a good life after. Martha Beck says that “The fact that you are still alive means
there is still too much that have happened to you than has gone wrong so far”.
Don’t fear to stand, dust up and move on.
Conclusion
Just think about your greatest triumphs and disappointments over a
dinner table with your family and friends, share this conversation with them. Celebrate
with them and cheer up. There are better things coming up soon. Let go of those
disappointments, begin to create and discover new dreams and exciting ways to
start a new life. Have a reflective life. Remember to stay in touch with me at jeremiahwakamu@gmail.com or on
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