Sometimes last week I got thinking, Who will I marry when
time comes? It was distressing to me and I got laughing about it. But then as I
was doing so, I remembered a magazine I was reading sometimes back with the main
subject being living in solitude and the secrets of a successful life in
solitude. And as I remembered what the writer was talking about I became
convinced that it was exactly what I wish my woman will be. Women who spend
time in solitude. And by the way I think I have enough reasons why I will marry
her and I wish to outline it in this writings. I must however put a disclaimer that the
reasoning behind this is solely my open mind and does not mean that I will
exactly marry her. I will marry just the right one whom I will be compatible
with.
Now I will marry a woman who spends more time on her own in a secret place because:
Now I will marry a woman who spends more time on her own in a secret place because:
- A woman who loves to spend more time in solitary places can build a more tight relationship with God and have more time to build an alliance with God which is one requirement for a successful marriage. My reasoning is that they spend that time in reading and meditation and thus they will know more how to fear and honor God since I will marry a woman who fears God. As they develop a more intimate relationship with God they will receive instructions from the Lord on how to become a Proverbs 31 woman from the word of the lord. They will know that she ought to be submissive to me, they need to be the home dressers and provide cover to me in my weaknesses. Such Women who spend time more time in solitary and fear God will pray for our home more. In such a deep relationship I am sure the lord will build and watch over our home.
- I know such women will take time even to think issues concerning how we can build a strong and a good family. They will be critical in how they handle issues. I know we will not argue more often because she will bring more sense into life. In the multitude of words the Bible say sin abounds and so I know when no much idle talk does not arise then we will have fewer conflicts. More so such women I know they will engage more in giving their energy to our marriage than tearing it apart in gossip an waste time with other women who can lead to collapse of our home.
- I will marry a solitary woman because I believe if solitary they experience is from a forced circumstance prior to our marriage such as due to hatred, anger and bitterness, I know they will provide a spark love towards me when they decide to come out of it. They will be more loving when they shed off that solitude.
- I will marry such women because they are strong to take care of themselves and the kids God will reward us with even when I am away for sometimes maybe due to job or business engagements. Or maybe when I decide to take sometimes to pray alone. If they can take care of their issues in private and confronting them without running away from them they will be strong even to take care of herself. As such I will not be worried when I will away for some time that something amiss will happen to them in my absence. They will be able to take care of themselves and the family.
- I will marry such women because they will not demand too much from me. They will not raise financial bars and standards beyond what even they will not be able to reach. They will be understanding and self-reliant. More so such women will not have high expectations on me but will make every effort to independent as much but will only look for me to head her and provide support and leadership in the family. They will know that I am the head and source of authority in home.
There goes my woman who will love solitary. I must also say that this is open to criticism and
correction and I have tried as much as possible to be objective as I could.
