Greeting!!!
Hoping y’all doing well, it’s time to pick up on self-confidence topic and
explore it further. Of course not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of
self confidence. And the thing is, sometimes it’s hard to develop
self-confidence because of personal experiences that have taken toll on you or
generally suffer from low self-esteem. On
a side note, I actually thought will not write again on this media space, and
probably that explains why it took two weeks to complete this topic. But the
fire to write was really burning and though I refrained, it became apparent
this I would never light a candle and hide it under the bed. And here we are,
this blog shares a couple of personal handy things you can engage with to build
your self-confidence. In the most general terms, they are little changes to
your attitudes, framing of the minds and dropping some habits.
Give a
careful thinking of things you’re good at
Always
be careful to remember that everyone has their talents and strengths including
you. So develop your own fact sheet and work out the best way to build on your strengths
and talents. When you recognize things that you are good at and building on them
it provides a good opportunity to build your confidence around your abilities
and strengths.
Gain inspiration
from what you’ve already achieved
It’s
often easier to focus on what you haven’t done than what you’ve already
accomplished and this has a tendency of letting you feel as if you aren’t any better
and you have achieved nothing. To alleviate the risks of losing
self-confidence, focus on things you have done either small or big so that you
can gain insight and perspective on your abilities and talents. Take some time
to write down a list of all the things you have done and are proud to have
accomplished in your life that could include learning to ride a bike, getting
good marks and add up to it every little thing you achieve and are proud of. Anytime
you feel you are low in confidence pull out the list and remind yourself all
those awesome stuff you’ve done.
Talk yourself
up
When
you have negative commentary that is running through your mind, you will never
feel any good. Self-talk that is negative has a tendency of affecting your
self-confidence. Do not get stuck listening to negative thoughts that are self-defeating
and limiting because you always listen when you speak. Lisa M. Hayes says that when a person have
positive thoughts about how they will nail a project because they are proud of themselves,
this message sinks into their heart and are more willing to cat on unseen
opportunity and ultimately their success. Message you send to your brain and
heart repeatedly reflect our own ability to achieve success.
Get a hobby
Chances are what you are interested and
passionate about creates some certain creativity and hence you are more likely
to succeed in them. When you involve in a hobby, you stop acting like someone
else, since you understand other people’s past, history and biology are
different and hence there is no way you will know about what they portray to
the world. Do not exhaust your energies in trying to be or do something you are
not as you will spend every day of your life fighting out battles that you will
never win and hence will erode tout self-confidence. When you enjoy your own
hobby, you’ll not seek attention and comparisons that sets in a direct line for
feelings of guilty and failure. In your hobby, exercise and fight things up
till you make it to the end.
Last
Saturday I was hanging out with incredibly ambitious friends from my
undergraduate class. So after a series of up and down in the city, we finally
settled down to take lunch together in a popular eatery. And so, we were
catching up as we took our meals and drinks. The juicy part for this post was
actually when we were making fun about what we were up to since campus. We all
graduated with a Business IT course degrees but it was funny I was in writing,
one friend has opted for music and the other friend had opted for network
marketing. Close inspect that, our activities now were never our major in
campus. We laughed and joked about it. Honestly how do you explain that shift
in career and heart? It was nice listening to one of the friends confess how he
had handed down his resignation letter to pursue his heart yet he did not know
where he was starting. But finally he’s doing well, the other guy had decided
also pursue his first love and didn’t care he was getting less than his peers. That
all took more self-confidence than you think; they had amazing heroic stories of
confidence and courage and we took more time than we had initially planned. Dropping
what you know for unknown that you are burnt up with zeal to achieve.
Last night I was also thinking am having a
bloated ego, you know why? When I visit people’s house I usually demand that if
they must offer me a piece of “chicken’s heart” I just decline politely (HAHA).
And for your information, I’m a Kenyan African where a chicken is considered a
good meal. But no, thanks never interested in a chicken’s heart, I would rather
take a fish especially the head part. This is particularly when the head has
eyes that are un-removed and start with them. Chickens are known cowards and I’m
never that kind who fears. I would rather control my ego than deal with low self-esteem
(Lol).
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